As soon as humans developed language, they probably also learned how to swear. Swearing exists in most cultures and languages and is taboo in the vast majority of them. But men often seem incapable of removing swearwords from their lexicon. Sure, swearing has its uses; it emphasizes points and emotional expressions well, and it and can be used for comic or dramatic effect. Some studies have even shown that a swearword can physically reduce pain, like when you stub your toe.
But since these uses are most effective in moderation, when did using a swearword in every other sentence become acceptable?
It’s time to put a stop to the use of swearing in everyday conversation. There are reasons these words are designated as taboo.These reasons haven’t changed, so here is a little reminder of the damage overuse can do.
Remember how when you were a teenager, swearing was an act of rebellion? It probably helped you fit in with the cool crowd, protected you from ridicule by peers and was maybe even a crude attempt to impress girls. Newsflash: You aren’t a spotty adolescent any more. Swearing doesn’t make you more attractive to women, and it doesn’t make you look cool.
You’re a man now, and that should mean that swearing is off the agenda. Just because the “cool” guy in sales swears does not mean you should return to the playground and copy him. Are you a man who knows his own mind or just a kid playing grown-up? Be a man and know that you don’t need to swear to be popular. Just stop swearing.
It makes you look stupid
We can accept that a judiciously used swearword can be effective, and the etymology of swearwords is fascinating, but frankly, if your first recourse in communication is to rely on an expletive, you have a fundamental inability to express yourself well. Language is so rich, with such a diverse choice of words for any situation, that for every swear word you could use, there are probably hundreds of more appropriate words available. These can range from the esoteric to the very simple. Stop swearing and broaden your vocabulary.
Our languages allow for incredible precision of meaning and enable you to express yourself far more clearly and accurately than could most ill-considered curse words. Swearing when there is a perfectly viable, non-offensive alternative makes you look foolish. A well-chosen word makes you seem articulate and considerate of your company.
Consider this: If you were writing an important letter, you would use expensive paper, neat handwriting and carefully crafted language. You wouldn’t scrawl misspelled graffiti as if on a bathroom wall. Why should you have any less respect for your speech?
Swearing is inconsiderate
Why assume that everyone around you tolerates swearing? That is an inconsiderate and arrogant attitude. For all you know, the people around you could be deeply offended by the use of bad language, not to mention that it comes across as aggressive and intimidating. You wouldn’t make off-color jokes in front of work colleagues or children, so why risk insulting people by swearing?
Take a moment to realize that not only could you seriously upset other people, but you could also make a bad name for yourself. At work, it can even be taken as harassment or bullying, which can have grave consequences.
You can’t take swearing back
Once you have let the genie out of the bottle, the damage has been done — sometimes irrevocably. Imagine going on a first date with a beautiful woman, and letting an expletive slip. That could well be the last time you ever see her.
Swearing as an attempt to show off in front of a woman is ridiculous; it’s the linguistic equivalent of pulling a woman’s pigtails and running away. And, in general, people can form an impression of you that won’t shift. Swearing often earns you a bad reputation, and the damage it does to relationships can be terminal.
don’t be a simpleton
These are just a few reasons why you need to stop swearing and realize that it isn’t big or clever. As a man, you, and only you, are responsible for what comes out of your mouth. Make sure that your speech makes you look and sound good or you risk being perceived as a boorish oaf. You’re better than